I wrote a post earlier this week about my intangible 2017 goals and all the stuff I wanted to work on internally. Which is cool and everything, but y’all know me too well to think that would be the end of it. Those were big, overarching thoughts, internal changes to make in order to achieve the things I’ve listed below.
1. I will pay off my credit card debt.
If there is a singular devil in this world, it’s credit card debt. When I took my job in Little Rock in late 2015, I was making money based upon billed hours alone. More often than not, an associate earn a salary set by the firm, regardless of the amount of hours she bills (and usually, a firm has a set expectation regarding the minimum on billed hours). However, I was set up in a 60/40 firm – whatever I billed, I kept 60% and the firm kept 40%. This would have been a fantastic setup if I a) had come out of a private practice firm with private practice contacts, or b) had a reserve of Little Rock contacts. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case with either, so while I built a practice, I had to float on credit for a while. Which leads me to where I am now. I’m in a different position, one with a steady, consistent salary that allows me to plan with more ease.
This one is really important to me. With the crushing amount of student loan debt I have, I’d like to be able to start 2018 with a clean slate on revolving debt. Then, maybe in 2018, I can buy myself an abode, with either wheels or a foundation (but that’s for next year’s post).
2. I will take my health seriously.
Y’all, I got fat and out of shape and straight-up uncomfortable. I’m joining the masses of people that want to “get healthy” in the new year, but damn it, I mean it. I don’t want to continue down this sedentary path, and for as much as I deny it, my metabolism ain’t what it used to be. I’m not in my mid-twenties anymore, and I can’t get by on Bagel Bites and Diet Cokes any longer. I have to make conscious efforts to both eat what will nourish me and get off my ass.
I made the decision last June to go vegetarian and never t looked back. I absolutely love it. There is no turning back now, which is handy because the thought of meat makes me a little Sweet Dee-gaggy. A lot of people ask me if I miss meat. That’s been the follow-up to the typical two-part question I get:
- What do you eat? (answer: everything delicious!), and
- Don’t you miss meat? (answer: nope. nope nope nope.)
Here’s the cool thing about full lifestyle changes: when you have affirmative reasons for taking a particular action, you no longer view things in light of what you’re giving up. For me, I ditched meat for a variety of reasons, and when I think of those reasons, I don’t feel I’m missing out on anything. My reasons center mainly around compassion: it’s hard to think of slicing up Louie in the most inhumane way possible and feasting on him, and I can no longer imagine doing it to any other animal simply because it’s always been that way.
(I don’t want to get preachy, so if you wanna talk veg, please contact me!)
This year, I’m making the decision to cut back on the dairy and milk. I’m not ready to make the whole vegan transformation just yet, nor am I ready to say that I will at any point, but I do want to replace the animal-based with plant-based more often than not. Again, a lot of compassion issues, but also health-based. Plus, dairy is really bad for your skin.
I will move. I will do something beyond sitting on my widening ass. Be it yoga, walking, running marathons, or adult gymnastics, I will do something physical to make my body feel good.
3. I will write.
For having a life goal of penning the Great American Novel, I’m sure not writing very much. Outside of this space, my thoughts haven’t reached paper very often. I have so many ideas rattling around in the massive empty space above my neck that some of them, by some sort of smart-person science law, just have to make it to light … right? Right. I’m going to set aside time at least three times a week, some quiet, uninterrupted time, to just write. No set plan with what I’m writing. Just whatever I want. Something that isn’t a blog post and isn’t related to my job. Just. Write.
4. I will make new friends.
Making friends as a grownup is hard stuff, guys. I could write an entire post about friends in your thirties. With every year that passes, different variables come in play with further compartmentalize friend groups. When you get married, you can have married friends to talk married things with. When you have babies, you can have mommy/daddy friends to talk baby things with. And all of these things are great, except that when you’re almost 33 and unmarried and don’t have babies and want to go to bed at 10:00 and hang out in sweatpants, you’re removing yourself from 98% of friends-making opportunities. Unless anyone wants to have a grownup slumber party so call me.
Where does one procure a grownup friend? Is there an old broads sorority for people like us? Please advise. Also- taking applications.
5. I will not be complacent.
I will not let my life pass me by. I will say yes more often. I will say no more often. I will read more. I will get out more. I will be outside in the beautiful state in which I reside. I will go to baseball games. I will drink lots of water. I’ll lay on a blanket in the park. I’ll listen to Ted Talks and podcasts. Live in bright color. I won’t get caught up with the stuff, but I’ll focus on the substance. If I don’t succeed, it is a direct result of my inaction and lack of motivation. Complacency isn’t an option this year.
I’ll be intentional.
I’ll be consistent.
I’ll be at peace.
I’ll be bright and colorful and shiny and happy.
Starting with my shoes.
what, isn’t that where everyone starts?